To know we’re not alone

Just a few thoughts for today:

“We read to know we’re not alone.” – William Nicholson, Shadowlands

This is one of my favorite quotes, spoken by the fictional C.S. Lewis in Shadowlands, though it is commonly attributed to the real C.S. Lewis, who frankly has more than enough to take credit for without also taking credit for things another author supposed he might have said.  Anyway, I would like to propose an amendment to this quote.

“We write to know we’re not alone.” – Becca Nelson

Or at least, I write to know I am not alone.  I suppose some other writers may just enjoy reading their own words. 

In order to share our stories, though, we need to be willing to be vulnerable.  I loved what Brené Brown said about vulnerability in her book Daring Greatly.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

We feel shame and depression and anxiety when we feel alone, when we feel like we’re defective, when we feel like we’re the only person in the world who doesn’t have it all figured out yet. Sometimes, the most healing words in the world are me too.  

I spent yesterday getting my car repaired, trying to talk my way out of going to traffic court when I’m supposed to be 7,000 miles away, and then waiting around for a train that was delayed for two hours.  I’m looking for a me too.

When the world is feeling all wrong, I watch Gilmore Girls.  I’ve watched about 10 episodes in the past two days.  I’m looking for a me too.

I’m really bad at budgeting, remembering to pay my bills on time, using coupons, and finding jobs that pay me money.  I’m looking for a me too.

Even if you aren’t one for over-sharing on the internet for the whole world to see (guilty as charged…), just know that you are not alone.  You aren’t the only one who makes stupid mistakes.  You aren’t the only one who is frustrated.  You aren’t the only one who is lonely.  Etcetera, etcetera.

You are not alone.

I am not alone.

We are not alone.  

This could change everything.

  • biscuitswithjam

    Hi Becca — I saw your post on Single Roots — really thoughtful! And so browsed this blog. I like the “me too” theme. And your phrase “not pinterest worthy.” As in the parts of our lives that aren’t pinterest worthy, such as forgetting to pay bills or leaving almost-empty ketchup bottles in the refrigerator while you start a new one.